tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9077174481084328091.post2783693141830207079..comments2023-11-05T02:49:12.400-10:00Comments on Babies, Balanced Translocations, and Being in My 30s: I Love my Family but...TheThirtiesGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00408172798593083825noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9077174481084328091.post-20118029424570949082010-12-19T05:24:04.610-10:002010-12-19T05:24:04.610-10:00omg your mom sounds just like my mom...the "p...omg your mom sounds just like my mom...the "platitudes" of moms...ugh. I love my mom like crazy and we're very close, but we seem to part ways on the whole ttc/pregnancy thing. she had some infertility problems when it came to GETTING pregnant, but no issues STAYING pregnant...so we're in very different boats. Every time I mention how I'm feeling (depressed/hurt/etc.) she acts like I should just get over it and tells me how it'll happen in time. It's like she just doesn't GET IT!!!! Grrrr. Thank God I love her so much or I'd bop her upside the head with a club! lolMaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00224855924560513407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9077174481084328091.post-40595794211469179682010-11-21T16:15:43.016-10:002010-11-21T16:15:43.016-10:00totally agree with you, i spoke to T the other nig...totally agree with you, i spoke to T the other night about possibly not telling anyone when (and if) this next IVF finally happens. i hate to keep them waiting and keep letting them down. its just not in my nature to not be able to talk about things with my mom, or be honest when asked a question. plus i wouldn't be able to blog about it, and then i would probably go insane. so oh well, they're along for the ride whether we like it or not!!<br />hugs, i know its hard<br />xoxo<br />lisbibchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13696528943928321710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9077174481084328091.post-62442556418841676992010-11-21T15:38:53.890-10:002010-11-21T15:38:53.890-10:00That's interesting... my situation is the same...That's interesting... my situation is the same except the opposite, if that's possible. LOL. I have told my parents very little about we're going through, in part for the exact reason's you've expressed. Sometimes I feel guilty because they obviously know SOMETHING is up, and I KNOW my mom wishes I would tell her more... but I am having a hard enough time dealing with this from my end. I can't deal with the anxiety and hope and waiting from my parents...Just mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05671919237872985299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9077174481084328091.post-14753011552705520832010-11-21T14:37:53.897-10:002010-11-21T14:37:53.897-10:00Hello thirstiesgirl..... you are not alone. Someti...Hello thirstiesgirl..... you are not alone. Sometimes it is just too hard to have to listen to your family. In my case, it is just my mom, I do not have a big immediate family. I found myself so frustrated sometimes when she tells me to relax and to try again and it "will work out." When I do not get pregnant, she believes that it's because my husband and I work too much and we do not take the time to stop...... uggghhhh........ no, it's not why it does not work! I love her dearly and she feels very deep sadness and guilt for me having to deal with BT but I keep alot of things to myself. The reason is because I believe that although she is my mom, she cannot imagine fully what I am going through, no one, except people like you, who are going through the same thing, can understand. I hate that feeling that I get when I realize that I may never have children. She does not like to talk about this subject with me because she thinks it's negative....... but it's true. But I do not want to discuss certain things anymore. I am glad that I started a blog so I can talk..... even if it's just me behind my computer screen! Thirtiesgirl, I know exactly what you are going through, I am in my 30's also, dealing with the same pains that you are. Feel free to reach out if you need someone to listen!Lil' Frenchiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00509618539227501007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9077174481084328091.post-91305150661171801072010-11-21T11:28:28.260-10:002010-11-21T11:28:28.260-10:00I know what you mean thirtiesgirl...thankfully my ...I know what you mean thirtiesgirl...thankfully my parents and sister did come around to understand what we are going through...my mom more so. She feels as bad as I do. But now I almost wish I didn't tell them anything because they go through the same pain (different type of pain) we do and I feel guilty for dragging them through it. But do what you have to...if yesterday's white lie makes you feel better to give you the protection and privacy of their inquiries then so be it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com