July 16, 2010

The Waiting Game

I've been patiently waiting. Well as patiently as I am able to wait. I finally got in to see the specialist this week that was supposed to tell us everything about our translocation (REs) words. Unfortunately he was unable to tell us anything we didn't already know. So after waiting a month to get into see him, I'm now being sent to someone else. I have more faith in this next appointment but to say I'm frustrated would be an understatement. All Mr F and I want to know is whether we are able to biologically conceive our own child. If so, then we have already decided we're willing to keep playing the odds game and will survive any losses that come our way. However, our RE has us on birth control because he wants to make sure natural is the best decision--the other would be IVF w/PGD ($20k price tag for those unfamiliar). So, here we sit in this purgatory. Wasting time and waiting for answers.
On the subject of wasting time, I am so sick of Drs telling me not to worry and that I'm young. Granted I'm in my early 30s. This is probably on the young side for those visiting REs. However, it is abundantly clear that it's not going to be an easy road for me to have a child. This BT complicates everything. Just having a child may take years and I'd like at least 2. So, don't on one hand tell me to try to have all my children by 35 and then on the other tell me how young I am. I don't really understand how that math works out.
I'm really just kind of in a bad mood right now. I just want some answers so Mr F and I can make a decision on how we want to proceed in building our family. Supposedly, we may get them next week. With the way things have been going, I'm not holding my breath.


  1. Blech. I'm sorry you didn't get any answers at all yesterday. When is your appointment with the real specialist?

  2. Hopefully at the end of this week. She's doing research and is going to let us know tomorrow. I can't wait...hopefully answers finally.

  3. Hey ThirtiesGirl...thanks for visiting my blog! I know EXACTLY what you and the Mr. are going through. I was in your EXACT shoes 6 months ago. Although I am certain you will find out answers sooner than we did....but it is so so incredibly nerve wracking figuring out what to do. But I just read journal after journal, book after book. But do please ask to speak with a geneticist...one that specializes in PGD. I think this is critical. I hope your translocation is one that is easily screened for and not on a "tricky" chromosome like mine is. One thing about translocations and inversions is that no two are alike...so that makes it all so hard. I look forward to following your journey.

  4. YES! that young comment fucks me right off too. I'm 33, and all I hear is the clock ticking - 2 shots at ivf (publicly funded waiting list minefield) will taken up to the next 2 years which, surprise, after that my egg quality declines rapidly. Woo-hoo.
    Young is 18-24. early thirties is 'start to worry'. in my opinion anyway